Stop apologizing to men for not wanting to sit them with, drink with them, dance with them, go home with them. You have not been put on this earth for their pleasure, their entertainment, to help them feel a little less lonely at night. If you do not want someone, are not interested in someone, don’t apologize. You do not have to be forgiven for the sake of someone else’s feelings. All you have to worry about is your own.

If you’re dating someone and they cheat on you with the girl sitting across them from the bar, or anyone for that matter, do not ask their name, why they did it, and if it was worth it. Just leave. Do not swear your revenge, or that you find the one who broke your relationship because the person who broke your trust is sitting right in front of you. The person who ruined what you had is the one who promised that they never would. Do not fixate yourself on what you should have or could have done, but what you will do, which is leave. You gave them a chance and now they can see it walk out the door.

You’re going to make mistakes and that’s inevitable, but what isn’t is making those same mistakes twice. You are supposed to learn from the pain, supposed to take it into your hands, hang it on your wall to remind yourself that you will never let it happen again. It’s hard stopping others from repeating their tragedies, but when it comes to your own, you are in control.

Love as many as you want. Kiss as many as you want. Fuck as many as you want. But when you do these things do it with all of you. Do it because you know it will show you something, help you with something, make sense of things. Never do a task that was assigned by someone else if you are not interested, not comfortable, unwilling. You can do anything you want to do as long as you know that there is only understanding and truth behind it. Never settle, never give in and never do anything that you don’t want to just because you feel bad.

Learn to say no. Learn to fight. Learn the difference between love and lust and learn to love yourself. If you love yourself, when you’re alone, you won’t need the presence of another just to make you feel at ease. You’ll have the power of healing in your very own body. You’re beautiful, remember that, write it down, scream it out loud and never forget. You have the entire world inside of your hands and the only thing you truly need to know to push through these trying times is that you can do anything. Now do it. - "Tips for girls who are still growing up," - Colleen Brown (via mostlyfiction)

(via ocean-of-unsaid-words)

I don’t mind being alone.
I am fiercely independent and
perfectly capable of accomplishing things on my own.
Feeling vulnerable brings out the worst in me.
I have to be in control of myself and how I feel.
Letting someone close enough to hijack my emotions is
an action I will consistently repeat and consistently
regret. - emotional gemma (via ultraraw)

(via ocean-of-unsaid-words)

Sorridi e abbassi gli occhi un istante, e dici ‘non credo di essere
così importante’. - Vasco Rossi.  (via unfioreinmezzoalcemento)

(Source: damnbabysmile, via quelsorrisomozzafiato)

Io non lo so come sto, non ci voglio pensare. Certe volte è meglio non saperlo, come stiamo. -

Daria Bignardi - L’amore che meriti (via spegniriaccendi)

Ecco. Appunto.

(via marialapazza)

(Source: layura, via staybeforeyougo)

Lui tornerà ad essere un estraneo dopo che avrete fuso le vostre vite in una sola, vi sarete confidati i segreti più nascosti e avrete abbattuto il muro di qualunque pudore. Sarete due estranei anche se conoscete il ritmo del vostro sonno, i vostri odori, le vostre abitudini. Due estranei che si conoscono meglio di qualunque altro e le cui vite non si incroceranno mai più se non per caso. -

Alessandro Baricco (via toutcequirest)

le cui vite non si incroceranno mai più se non per caso

(via sorrisimancati)

(via uncasinoinnamorato)

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There’s a brief moment when you first wake up where you have no memories, a blissful blank slate, a happy emptiness, but it doesn’t last long and you remember exactly where you are and what you are trying to forget. - (via psych-facts)

(via broken-from-memories)

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Don’t ever put your happiness in someone else’s hands. They’ll drop it. They’ll drop it every time. - (via i-know-the-secret-of-victoria)

(Source: jamiemrks, via i-know-the-secret-of-victoria)

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